By now you've probably seen multiple posts about my new book, Leaving War, Finding Love: A Veteran's Transition.
It's already available for pre-sale on B&N.com and any day now it will be live for pre-sale on Amazon (an important step). As it becomes available I anticipate that some of you will read it, either because you're close to someone who has gone through military to civilian transition or because you're awesome and you're supporting me!
Now, I've made a bold claim in my title post and you may already be intrigued but to effectively explain why I believe every Military Family should read it, I need to tell you about Joe.
(Stay with me, this is a long post but important to read it in full.)
Joe, is not real. He is not based on anyone. Truly I took his name from the character G.I. Joe.
But, Joe is a story, he's the story of the veteran who comes home. The one who leaves active service...4,8,15,20 years after he joined. Joe is about to enter a battlefield of a different enemy. An adversary he was likely not ready to face. Military Transition.
Joe served over a decade in the Special Operations (SOF) community. He was considered the tip of the spear and he equally considered those he worked with as such. His job, although difficult and dangerous, gave him purpose. He loved what he did because it was his passion, the passion to be a part of something bigger than yourself. When Joe came home for the final time, he had completed eight tours of duty overseas. By all means, Joe was 'ready' to be done. No longer the fresh faced boy of eighteen, he had grown into a man during his time of service and now was ready to settle down and start a family.
When he left base that last day, he was nervous about the future, questioning how he was going to provide for his family; but he was also excited about finally having the time for all the things he'd been missing. And, lastly he felt prepared. After all, two months of terminal leave pay would set him up for an easy transition. Or so he thought.
Within the two years since Joe left active service, he has struggled with identity, who he is (if he isn't an Operator) and where that purpose he had before can be found now. He has wrestled with depression and guilt. Racked up credit card debt and changed jobs a few too many times. He has isolated himself from everyone, especially his wife. He has suffered from insomnia, alcoholism, and anger. And Joe's marriage is completely falling apart! Joe isn't who he thought he'd be and he isn't who he wants to be.
This is military transition! This is the part of military service that no one really thinks about, the ending. For most of us, we believe coming home from war was the battle's end and therefore a successful finish. But for many veterans, the battle lingers long after they've returned. We need to be aware that the journey home doesn't always end at the front door.
In Leaving War, Finding Love: A Veteran's Transition you'll discover what I've determined as Military Separation Anxiety (MSA). You'll read about how that term clearly outlines the aspects of transition that are different than someone having PTSD. What has before only been referred to as transition issues, I've now given a name. In doing so, as a community we may be better prepared for how to understand MSA, and therefore can properly handle its effects. MSA is Joe's story but Leaving War, Finding Love is Jane's.
Jane is Joe's wife. You see, Leaving War, Finding Love is different than any book of its kind not just because it deals with MSA but because it written to Jane. The Veteran's Wife. The one who needs to understand the importance of a Veteran's transition as much as the Veteran himself does. This book, describes why the wife plays a key role to a veteran's successful transition!
If you're close to a veteran; a wife, mother, girlfriend, sister. You need to read this book!If you're the veteran yourself, you still need to read this book! I've had several men review it beforehand and here is what two of them said:
"This book helped me understand myself and my fellow veterans in a much better way. Many of the things that happen during transition are very difficult for the “warrior” to put into words and this book does that for us." -Michael Arnold, Special Operations Veteran and Senior Chief, USN (Retired) HM-8403
"Hillary Sigrist’s approach to guiding our veterans, their spouses, and their families through the path of separating from military service to finding significance in civilian life is unmatched." -Chaplain Todd Leathermon
If you know someone in the military who is preparing to leave service or has already left (doesn't matter the length), you need to buy this book for them. It is the single best gift you could give! And, I don't say that because I'm the author. I want to see this book spread like wildfire, not to achieve sales but to benefit those who need to read the message it contains.
This isn't a widely known topic, because oftentimes it is misrepresented by the PTSD stigma or because our brave men and women are suffering in silence. After almost twenty years of the longest war in American history, you can bet that Leaving War, Finding Love is extremely timely!
My prayer for this book, is that God uses it to reach those in need and that together we can complete the last leg of the journey home as a country of strong military families!
Help me do that by pre-ordering or ordering a copy within the weeks before and after it's release date (July 4th 2017). This will help to skyrocket it to Amazon's #1 spot for military families!