The answer is yes! I have recently had a few women ask me about reading Warrior Wife, not being ‘Warrior Wives’ in the traditional sense, they were unsure if it would be applicable to them at all. After receiving feedback from a few of my close civilian wife friends, I feel I can safely answer yes to that question. Not only have they taken away their own encouragement, but they have gained a special insight into the life of military families and how better to support and/or understand them.
I didn’t seek to write a book about marriage; I simply wanted to encourage my fellow military wives on the journey that had been thrust upon them. However the great thing about God’s truth is the ability to transcend into different hearts. Different women, different marriages, different circumstances but all uniquely open to receive God’s words specifically in the way they need it. Encouragement, faith, support, and honestly. That is what Warrior Wife is about!
Being a Warrior Wife is about supporting our husbands, even if that is not within a military job. In Warrior Wife I say: “God created women to be a helper for man (Genesis 1:18), and by fulfilling that calling, we are honoring both God and our husbands. It’s a big responsibility, but there is nothing more powerful to attend a man’s heart better than to have the unwavering support of his woman.” No matter what your wifely job description is; working wife, stay at home wife, retired wife, first responder wife, doctor wife, it doesn’t change that the biggest job or duty you have is to fulfill that obligation to be your husband’s support and help mate. It was your first job as a married women, before the kids! It should still take precedence in your life, even after thirty years of marriage. The duties might change but the job should remain the same.
Warrior Wife is specific to military wives in certain areas, but you could easily remove the military and put in the particular piece detailed to your life. In fact I believe that in some ways the specific obstacles in a military marriage represent seasons in civilian marriages. For instance, there is a chapter dedicated to deployment. Although most civilian wives will not spend months away from their spouses, the season of raising small children can resemble that of a deployment. Communication can suffer; how many times do you both start a conversation and don’t get to finish it? Love tanks can run on empty for far too long; you’re both physically putting energy into the kids there isn’t much left to offer each other. Or you may struggle finding contentment where you are as a mom. It is much like a deployment.
We are all on our own battlefield, some more literally than others. Everyone has a story, and everyone has a struggle. We could all share our piece of what we’ve learned along the way and gain much from one other. Warrior Wife shares encouragement, but it also challenges wives to take pride in and see the importance of being an unconditional support to our husbands. It gives a goal to shoot for and a path to take higher than simply being a good wife, but to be a Warrior Wife.
May you enjoy the journey no matter what road you’re on!